Help Me Enjoy This

[Leon564]

I already left the server a while ago. No impact on anything.

I can't be made to care if the other person doesn't. I'm not going to force myself to say I care if someone else doesn't.

[SimplePride]

I agree wholeheartedly.

[Leon564]

If you were banned/left, and you didn't have anyone else messaging with you, why are you still active?

[winner3]

I don't think it matters if it's the discord server, the forum, or anywhere else. Honestly, as the admin on here and discord, I'm glad this wasn't brought up on discord because overseeing people's reactions to @Leon564's complaints would be more difficult for me in the server.

As I understand it, the bottom line is that Leon is struggling to have fun on LAW. And he's asking someone to change that. And from my interactions with Leon, I know this isn't the first time he's felt this way.

At the same time, this thread itself is a good example of actions he could take to change his attitude and try to have fun. You've already had two other users chime in and make suggestions. I believe @SimplePride summed it up best here

I'm willing to help you, but you gotta be willing to be helped.

You can't ask for help finding your groove and having fun on LAW, and then in the same thread deny people the chance to try and offer that guidance and that fun. I truly believe that changing your perspective and your attitude will help you here. No one person is going to come along and magically make you feel like you fit in and give you the enjoyment that you're seeking. It doesn't work that way.

You have to make an effort to mingle and mesh with others and do what you can build from there as a friend and as a roleplayer in this roleplaying community/forum.

Lastly, this comment here

If you were banned/left, and you didn't have anyone else messaging with you, why are you still active?

This is very tactless. It's in poor taste to bring this up publicly, much less ask prodding questions and ask for details out in the open. Please discuss these types of matters (bans, drama, etc) privately wherever possible.

[RedShinigami]

Holy shit that escalates quickly

[SimplePride]

If you were banned/left, and you didn't have anyone else messaging with you, why are you still active?

There's this beautiful term called "redemption" and I'm still striving for it each day. I know I will be back on the discord someday. Contrary to what some might have you believe, bans are not permanent. (At least, not on discord)

I used to be just like you. Wanting a chance, feeling ignored. Thankfully, with the combined efforts of quite a few others, I made my way here on LAW, and now I'm in the position to help others that were in the same boat. INCLUDING YOU!

But, here is the difference. I WANTED to be helped. It just seems you just want a sob story. I'm not going to pity anyone who doesn't want to be helped.

All I'll say is this: Change your attitude, or you are never going to be anything. Here, or in life.

[Leon564]

I do want help, but unless I seem to act this way, nothing ends up happening.

Past experience has shown that I get a serious reaction if I'm way more critical. Even if to my own detriment.

I don't like this kind of way, but it gets serious feedback as opposed to wave off 'Yea sure I've got to answer you quickly'

[Leon564]

I hate being here in this situation, but I hate even more having no sincere reactions.

And of course to be expected there's the heavy dislike to all of this, but it's what it came to because there was no effort from the other party.

I don't even know if anyone can remember a few months back when I was all happy and outgoing and stuff. 9/10 not a single person can even recall, because it was THAT badly overlooked/ignored for whatever reason.

[Leon564]

You guys preach me changing my attitude when my positive attitude before wasn't even reinforced.

[Leon564]

So, again: Make me enjoy being part of a community.

It'd be the first time, when I haven't been pretending.